That’s what I need, teach me, master.
I wouldn’t ruin the surprise by telling you their names but when you meet them you will feel it, it doesn’t mean they smile a lot or they are very friendly, there’s more to happiness than that. And they will be your teachers, not me, so just stick to them and you’ll do fine.
Sometimes it seems like life is good and everything is finally coming together. You have good friends, a sweet girlfriend, no financial issues, a fun job, good health and everything an average simple minded person could ask for. And there lies the problem, you are not an average person and it takes more than a little thought to figure out if you are really happy or just really comfortable.
To get the answer you need to refer back to point number 5, talk to yourself, only you know and only you can hear the screams inside you when you are trapped in a meaningless existence, craving and longing for some adventure, for something real, to experience life outside this walls you have built around you.
That’s when you know it’s time to move on. And you do move on, you don’t invent excuses to stay in a miserable life, you move on and you do so with a smile and without looking back.
That’s too deep for me right now.
Abandoning security and comfort to seek something that will make you feel alive or happier, how is that deep?
Yes, I don’t get it. Why can’t I just learn to be happy with what I have? How can I be happy If I always seek change and new experiences?
You got it wrong, I didn’t say you have to ALWAYS seek change and new experiences, I said sometimes you will feel trapped and you will just crave them, it doesn’t mean you are looking for them, it means it’s what you need to do in order not to fall into a conformist materialistic, or otherwise meaningless way of life.
It’s important to find a balance between stability and adventure, so I usually work one year, hang out with the same people and have a stable life and the year after that one I’d use it to travel, do something I haven’t done before, hang out with different people or by myself, go to places I haven’t been before and feel alive again until sooner or later, all these experiences start accumulating and being too much for our mind to process, that’s when I start craving for stability again, a warm bed, a hot shower, a group of friends, a source of income, a stable relationship, etc.
So we find happiness through balance not by becoming an adventure junkie or a salaryman, but by knowing what’s the right thing for you to do at this specific time in your life and having the courage to act upon it instead of making up excuses like most people do, they’d say I don’t have money, or I’m too young, or too old, or what will my family or friend would think? They are just really comfortable with not taking risks, doing what is expected of them and not challenging the norm, because it takes more effort.
But being comfortable doesn’t mean being happy.
You are allowed to adopt this conformist attitude for a few month only, never more than a year, because there is only one life (despite what very gullible people will tell you) and it’s very short so you have to make the most of it. And to make the most of it you need to learn the difference between happiness and conformity and you need to know how to wake yourself up when going into autopilot and start doing things just because they are easy, you got used to them or because other people are doing them. got it?
There is only one life? how can you be so sure? The absence of evidence is not an evidence of absence.
Well in some especially farfetched cases it is, and this is one of those cases.
How about the religions? Many of them think there is not just one life.
In that case is better not to argue with them, and that brings us to our next lesson, you see there will be times when you will lose the argument even before starting a discussion because the reasons why you are right are too complex for your opponent to understand. People who believe in religions fall into this category, it doesn’t mean you don’t know how to explain it well or simple enough for them to understand, it means that they will not listen to your argument or try to understand it because they have already made up their minds a long time ago, they have been convinced that they are the ones who are right and everyone who opposes them is wrong, regardless of the argument they bring along with them.
So best thing to do in this case would be to change the subject or just walking away politely, remember the monkeys and remember they are a product of their environment and the reason they believe in this or that religions is because they have been born in this or that part of the world at this or that period of time.
But if possible I would ask you to ignore religious people altogether, always.
If someone tells you they believe in god that represents a total lack of self-awareness, they will avoid any attempt at critical thinking, this are the kind of people that would defend the government and the status quo, the kind of people that would go to war and justify criminal or violent acts by saying ‘it’s an act of god’, ‘it’s human nature’, ‘it’s a complicated situation’ or ‘that’s how the world works’.
For example, if there is a child starving on the street, they will find some way to justify it so they don’t need to admit that the government has failed to administer and distribute our planet’s resources in a fair way. They are the enemies of change and progress so they will be easily offended by any idea that implies that things need to change.
I know and it may sound arrogant, so no one should know the reasons why you ignore them, only you.
If they get pushy just smile and change the subject, or do anything in your power to avoid talking about religion.
It doesn’t mean they are bad and you are good, no one is intrinsically good or bad, things change and people change, that’s why in the long run you will make a few religious friends, and you will be helped by many religious people during your travels. And they will try to convert you, so just remember, be polite always, smile, and remember the monkeys.
got it: 1. Remember the monkeys. 2. There are 200 other countries. 3 Train your Nose 4. Tell family you love them. 5. Talk to yourself 6. Get stronger. 7. Do what’s right. 8. Sign up to Couchsurfing. 9. Keep playing video games 10. The penis is ok. 11. Make the most of my life. 12. Avoid religions.
Is that it?
We’re almost halfway there.
Ok, what’s next?