Unless you belong to some crazy religion that forbids you to do so, you’ve probably had to go through many unsuccessful relationships, until you found the right one, that of course, just imagining you had found the right one.
Most people either never find it or they just let it slip away.
But what some of us did find instead, it’s a pattern, a pattern that prevents us from having successful relationships.
I’m not just talking about romantic relationships here, but about relationships in general.
The pattern goes something like this:
Step 1: Meet new person.
Step 2: Idealize them in your mind.
Step 3: Discover they were not how you thought they were.
Step 4: Get disappointed.
Step 5: go back to step 1.
And that’s just wrong, usually in most cases, what prevents us from building up meaningful relationships are the fake expectations we always hope the other person to fulfill.
The key to breaking this loop is, as usual, understanding, and here goes the pattern we should be aiming to instead:
1) Meet a new person.
2) Try to understand them and accept them as they are.
3) Be happy forever after.