So, I heard you like meeting people

As I’ve mentioned, when people meet each other for the first time, 95% of times, they will ask each other a set of predefined questions in order to do one or more of the following things:

1- Judge each other.

2- Predict what course the relationship will take. 

3- Place the other person in a social or hierarchical position either higher or lower to their owns.

4- Complete the first step in order to move to the next step in the relationship, which is usually: doing things together.

Note: If the “doing things together” step is, for some reason, completed before the set of questions is asked, as in the case of a group of people getting together to play a game, a sport, watch a movie or an activity that doesn’t allow for the questions to be asked at the first encounter, they have to be asked immediately upon competition of the activity. Otherwise, the participants won’t be able to move to the 3rd step of the relationship.

The questions they ask are the following:

1- Where are you from?

2- What do you do?

3- How long have you been in *insert country name here*?

4- How long will you stay?

5- Why did you come?

6- How do you like it here?

After you meet at least 10.000 people, and they ask you this same questions you can start (intentionally or not) predicting: 

1- Which of this questions they will ask you.

2- In which order.

3- The answer they would like to hear.

4- Their answer to the question they are asking.

5- And why are they asking that question? Most common reasons include:

a) – Because that’s just the way it is. They are normal people and that’s what normal people ask.

b) – Because they want to sincerely interact or get to know you, and that’s the socially accepted way of doing so.

c) Because they want something from you (money, sexy times, companionship, business partnership, etc) 

d) For you to ask them the same questions back, so they can get some kind of confidence or reassurance from his their answers either because they are somehow better than yours or because they are pleased with them.

e) – For the satisfaction that comes along when interacting with another person. We feel sociable, confident, fulfilled.

Note: 10.000 is the number required to learn the skill, after that you get 1 skill level every 1.000 interactions. Skill level determines accuracy.

How is it possible to predict this stuff? how does it work?

1rst: Our brain unconsciously recognizes a series of patterns it has seen before (these patterns have to be seen at least a dozen times before they can start to be recognized). 

For example, This guy you just met, let’s call it Kevin. Wears a hat indoors, grew up in canada, is pretty well built, travels with his girlfriend, studied law and asks you many questions. 

Your brain will remember the mental connections it made before to guys called Kevin, to people wearing a cap indoors, to law students, and so on. 

2nd: Our brain analyzes this familiar patterns, creates associations, that will later be linked to feelings or emotions we felt (to make them easier to remember and recognize in the future). 

For example, This guy Kevin, made a good impression on me, I felt like I can trust him, so from now on, I will start trusting people with similar features to his.

Bonus and modifiers:

– If you can speak 6 or more languages at an intermediate level at least, you get to automatically recognize the speaker’s mother tongue. 

Note: Target must say at least 10 words in his language.

– If you have been to at least 40 countries you automatically recognize the person country of origin or where they spent most of their life at, based only on their appearance, facial expression, and body language.

Note: To use this ability you must be at least 10m away from the target and make visual contact for at least 2 minutes.

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