If you have ever been in a relationship you know the drill, everything’s great at the beginning for a while then one of you stops trying and everything crumbles in a way that you don’t even realize what’s happening until it’s too late.
Then you feel terrible, some time goes by, you think about what you did wrong and tell yourself you won’t be making the same mistakes again in your next relationship.
Next relationship comes and sure thing you end up making the same mistake and so on.
To get out of this loop we need to do 3 things, the first one is to stop being control freaks.
We try to control our relationship, control our partner and control ourselves. And that just leads us to suffer and getting disappointed.
Once you stop trying to control everything you can move on to the next step.
Which is learning to love yourself as you are, appreciate all the good things you do and say every day. And then love your partner in the same way.
And The third one is to stop expecting so much from ourselves, our partner and our relationship, lower your expectations or better yet have no expectations at all and you’ll never be disappointed.
We expect our partners to be perfect, get disappointed when we find out they are not, and then we want to break up
We expect our relationships to be always harmonious, fun and successful, and then get disappointed to find no relationship is perfect
But It doesn’t matter if you succeeded or not in your relationship, in the long run, it matters that you succeded in trying and that you gave it your very best.
It’s not always going to work out the way you want it to, people change, circumstances change.
But you had a great time, loved and learned a lot from each other, and that’s much more important than any mistake you or they may have made.
Thank you for reading.